WITHOUT TRUST LOVE IS POINTLESS!!

One of the main problems of most relationship is lack of trust!
When an a partner breaks the trust, its very difficult to believe them again.
Once that sets in the relationship gradually go upside down.
Trust is what makes a relationship meaningful without trust, love is pointless.
Its just like building a castle in the air!
In order to build the foundation of trust in your relationship, try to be honest!
Though atimes its difficult but try to remain honest, try not to lie.
Keep your promises dont be an erring partner. Make sure you always show that
you care, be responsible.
If you are the type that dresses indecent, drinks, flirt and so on. Dont except your
partner to trust you..
Am a year older today .. cheers

Ladies need to know this

If you have someone who understands
you, who is patient with you, who loves
you genuinely, who cares about you,
who respects you, who is proud of you,
who doesn't take a day without calling
or texting you, who never fails to fix time for you, who fears to lose you.
Please love that person. Don't take his
or her care & love for granted because
such people are very rare to find these
days. Don't let such a person slip out of
your hands over minor disagreements. If you are the one in wrong admit and
ask for FORGIVENESS. Handle that
person with delicacy. Be there for him
or her. Do whatever it takes for both of
you to last forever. Be open to that
person. Don't be so nagging to such a person. Be trustworthy, faithful and
appreciative..

» Ladies : 14 Must-Have Essentials For Your Handbags «

A handbag, also purse or pouch in American English, is a handled medium-to-
large bag that is often fashionably designed, typically used by women, to hold
personal items such as wallet/coins, keys, a mobile phone, books, a pen and
paper, cosmetics and jewelry, a hairbrush, contraceptives, or pepper spray.
(Handbag definition culled from wikipedia)
14 Must-Have Essentials For Your HandBag
1. LIP STICK OR LIP BALM: Dry lips can make you uncomfortable especially
during the harmattan. To avoid licking your lips, make sure your lip balm is
intact in your handbag. A lipstick will also come in handy if you want to
quickly change your look to appear fancier or touch up the already fading
lipstick.
2. COMPACT MIRROR: Receiving weird looks from people? Get out your
compact mirror and check! Left-over food may be hanging from your teeth or
your hair may have taken an awkward shape.
3. A SMALL PACK OF TISSUES OR A HANDKERCHEF: Spilled something on
your hands? Need to wipe the bus chair before sitting down? Or just developed
a sneeze from nowhere? No sweat! Just get out your pack out tissues and be
your own hero.
4. HAND LOTION: When you remember that ashy hands or legs are not
attractive, you’ll understand that carrying lotion or a moisturizer along with
you in your handbag is super important.
5. HAIR ESSENTIALS: A bad hair day can go even worse if they’re no bobby
pins or hair ties to save the day. What about packing your hair to keep it out
of your face because the sun is just too hot for the “let-your-hair-down” look
you left home with? Having these hair accessories in your handbag will be a
good idea then. If you sport a low-cut, you can always skip this and go for a
mini comb or brush instead.

» 7 Reasons Why We Should Be Giving More Hugs «

Admit it: Nothing gives you comfort quite like a warm hug.
Whether you're wrapped up in the arms of your partner or greeting a friend
hello, hugs have a way of making us feel warm and fuzzy inside. But aside
from making us feel protected and loved, this touching gesture can also do
wonders for our well-being. So whether it's a simple squeeze, a big bear hug
or some cute cuddling -- there are plenty of reasons why we should embrace
the act of, well, embracing someone. Below, find seven reasons why we should
be giving more hugs.
They make us feel good.
The simple act of a hug isn't just felt on our arms. When we embrace
someone, oxytocin (also known as "the cuddle hormone" is released,
making us feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The chemical has also been linked
to social bonding. "Oxytocin is a neuropeptide, which basically promotes
feelings of devotion, trust and bonding," DePauw University psychologist Matt
Hertenstein told NPR. "It really lays the biological foundation and structure for
connecting to other people."
More hugs = lower blood pressure.
The hormones that are released in the body after a hug aren't just good for
happy feelings -- they can also help your physical health. When someone
touches you, the sensation on your skin activates pressure receptors called
Pacinian corpuscles, which then send signals to the vagus nerve, an area of
the brain that is responsible for (among many things) lowering blood pressure,
NPR reported.
They may alleviate our fears.
In a study on fears and self-esteem, research published in the journal
Psychological Science revealed that hugs and touch significantly reduce worry
of mortality. The studies found that hugging -- even if it was just an inatimate
object like a teddy bear -- helps soothe individuals' existential fears. "Even
fleeting and seemingly trivial instances of interpersonal touch may help people
to deal more effectively with existential concern," lead researcher Sander Koole
wrote in the study. "Interpersonal touch is such a powerful mechanism that
even objects that simulate touch by another person may help to instill in
people a sense of existential significance."
Hugging can be good for our hearts.
Embracing someone may warm your heart, but according to one study a hug
can be good medicine for it too: In an experiment at the University of North
Carolina, Chapel Hill , participants who didn't have any contact with their
partners developed a quickened heart rate of 10 beats per minute compared to
the five beats per minute among those who got to hug their partners during
the experiment.
Adults can benefit from hugging the most.
According to researchers at Ohio State University, hugging and physical touch
becomes increasingly important with age. "The older you are, the more fragile
you are physically, so contact becomes increasingly important for good
health," University psychologist Janice Kiecolt-Glaser told USA TODAY. Studies
have shown that loneliness, particularly with age, can also increase stress and
have averse health effects. By hugging someone, we instantly feel closer to
that person and decrease feelings of loneliness.
Hugs are a natural stress reliever.
Feeling strung out? Go give someone a squeeze. When we embrace, we
immediately reduce the amount of the stress hormone cortisol produced in our
bodies. Hugs also make our bodies release tension and send calming
messages to the brain.
Well-hugged babies are less stressed as adults.
Want to do something for future generations? Hug them when they're still
little. An Emory University study in rats found a link between touch and
relieving stress, particularly in the early stages of life. The research concluded
that the same can be said of humans, citing that babies' development --
including how they cope with stress as adults -- depends on a combination of
nature and nurture.

» Ten Things You Should Hide From Your Spouse

10. Facebook password
A meager reason like the password of your
social networking account can create problems
big enough to make you both drift your ways
apart. It is advisable not to share you
Facebook, Orkut, Skype or Twitter with your
partner. Preserving your password from them
will deny them complete access to your to your
privacy anytime. You never know they may
misinterpret things. Rather the better idea is if
you both sit together sometime with your
account logged in before you and you
discussing about your online activity in your
own words. A little hiding when a lot has been
already revealed is not a problem at all
especially when it can save a lot of
misunderstandings.
9. Your daily frustration
Tired after day’s work? Argument with mom or
fight with a friend or had a hard time your boss
in the office, need not come out with everything
in front of your partner. They may be your best
friend and you end up feeling great after
discussing your problems with them and even
though they are ok with it but the truth is they
are human like you and you might be troubling
them with such petty issues of yours. You can’t
run away from the fact that they don’t have
solution for each of your problem. So it’s not at
all a good thing to remove your sack of
problem from your head and place it on their
shoulder. Avoid troubling them with all your
daily frustrations; make an attempt to keep
some of the tensions to yourself. Talking about
problems more often can create negative
impact on your relationship.
8. Money can be a trouble honey
With both the partners working the probability
is quite high that you both may have an
unequal salary. If you are the one contributing
more to the family income, don’t highlight this
all the time. Do not talk about the incentives or
increments every time you receive them. This
will not only drag your partner under an
inferiority complex but chances are that they
may end up pushing all financial
responsibilities of the family at your side. Or the
other big mistake people commit is disclosing
about debts in front of their partner. They may
go crazy thinking that you people have gone
bankrupt putting unnecessary burden on your
sweetheart. You might tell them about your
debt when you have cleared them all. Till then
it’s better to hide it from them.
7. Your friend knows it all?
This one’s a big no- no. You are in the habit of
sharing the minutest details of anything and
everything with that childhood best friend of
yours but look around, your partner may not
like it. They may feel your private life to be
exposed and can feel that you treat them as
less important than that friend of yours. So the
best thing is to keep the secrets shared
between friends a secret. You don’t want your
partner to move out embarrassed as soon as
that friend of your steps in, right?
6. Hating their loved ones
So do you find their mom troublesome? Or his
dad or siblings or friends irritating..? But
shhhh…. Keep your mouth sealed. Never ever
blurt this out in front of your partner even if your
dislike is towards their… dog. How can they
ever like that you don’t find fault with
something/ someone they love so dearly.
Moreover it will create an impact on them that
you don’t approve of their judgments.
5. Aren’t bygones, bygones yet?
Past is the thing which can never be changed
but can always create a problem. Are you still
nursing feelings for your ex? It’s one thing that
you have told them everything about your past
relationship but never ever tell them that you
still feel for your ex. It will be very hard for them
to tolerate this. Don’t discuss that kiss which
went longer than you thought or things you did
for your ex. Never say it in front of your partner
if any of their actions resemble your ex or don’t
talk about anything which you liked about your
ex. Bury all the things about your permanently,
very deep under the ground so that your partner
doesn’t come face to face with them ever.
4. Keep your secret a secret
Not all of us have a past free from scratches.
There may be things you don’t like in your past.
Never ever disclose any such thing, any activity
or about any past experience, to them which
you yourself are guilty about. For if they too
mistook it you will have no way out to defend
yourself and you will be faulty in their eyes
forever. If you will make any attempt to defend
yourself, it will further deteriorate you in their
eyes as they might think you to be two-faced
or your story as an attempt to gain their
sympathy.
3. The huge expectations
This one comes naturally even before you
entered into any relationship. Since a long time
you must have been dreaming about getting
married, having that big house with a king-size
bedroom or starting a family, but keep in mind
you have to keep these hopes and aspiration
under the wrap. People often tend to give vent
to their aspirations very early in their
relationship which can usually scare them off.
Having too many expectations is always wrong
but revealing them all to your partner is very
dangerous. They may feel held back under that
mountain of your expectations. You want to
enjoy your life with them but does it have to be
at the cost of any burden on them?
2. Faults in you
It’s better to hide your faults from. Stop
nagging about your increased weight or hair
fall in front of them. Make a note first of all they
are with you because they are ok with the
things you are talking about, and that’s why
they are with you. May be they haven’t found
anything wrong with you and you are only
drawing their attention towards it. It may be an
attempt from your side to reassure yourself that
they love and appreciate you no matter what,
but you might be giving them a reason to look
down upon you.
1. Secret admirations
Now you must be smart enough to point this
one and must have been waiting for such a
point to come up. It’s always advised to keep
your secret crush a secret from your partner. If
you can’t resist yourself to catch a glimpse of
that girl/ boy in your college or enjoy the
company of that colleague in your office or love
to talk to one of his/ her friends, need not tell
about this to them. It will make them feel
jealous. No matter how good you both
understand each other it will make them feel
insecure at some point of time. You never know
that this might sow a seed of suspicion in their
mind that you are on the track of cheating upon
them. Will you like if your partner is spying on
you?

» Not Feeling The Need To Chase Any Girl: Is This Normal ?

Okay i dont know if im the only guy like this but i know i dont have any desire
to chase women. No im not gay, i love girls but i never chase them. I like to
think that maybe im proud but the idea of now begging one girl for a
relationship makes me freaking angry like wtf do u think u are....lol. Another
thing is i have realised that if u dare share ur awesome experiences with girls
on social networks everyone will attack u so im not going to say much all i
can say is yes a few girls have asked for my phone number in the past but i
still dont go into relationships with them. Somehow i friendzone them and
after a while i just cut them off for no reason. What do u think is the problem?
Am i scared of relationships or is it that im so cool and dont have time to be
"begging" one female for a relationship And i also noticed that a lot of girls
"beef" me, like people i dont even know. because i dont hold "small talks" with
them i notice they carry their face when they see me, so ladies and gentlemen
What is the meaning of all this Explain to me the concept of my
experiences and why its so ?

» The 10 Kinds Of Men A Woman Should Not Marry «

1. The Late Night Texter
You know, the guy who only texts you after midnight. He’s the guy who only
contacts you when he wants something, or someone to talk to. You can go
weeks without hearing from this person, only to rarely get a text full of smiley
faces and a message that reads, “Hey! How are you?” They aren’t consistent.
Don’t fall into the trap.
2. The Slacker
He’s the guy who has no dreams, vision, or passion to get up and do
anything. Don’t let his smooth words trick you into a relationship that will be
full of dull moments and half-hearted plans.
3. The Liar
Don’t trust a man who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore his
inconsistencies, he could eventually do something detrimental to your
relationship.
4. The Flake
This is the guy who calls of dates, constantly changes plans, and never shows
up when he promises. If you think this will change once you’re married, you’re
wrong. A flakey man will never put his woman first.
5. The Cheater
I’m all for grace and second chances, but the last thing you want is to find
yourself in a marriage with someone you can’t even trust. I’m a huge believe
that everyone can change, but please don’t get caught up in the lie that
cheating is just normal part of life. You deserve better.
6. The Partier
Stay away from him. Although he may seem as a fun and outgoing, I
guarantee you will be better off with someone who stays away from gatherings
full of bad mistakes and regretful decisions. The lifestyle of a partier never fits
well with the maturity needed in marriage.
7. The Fake
He’s the guy who claims to be one thing, but in person never steps up to the
plate. Not only is this unfair to your relationship, but you need to understand
this isn’t going to stop anytime soon. Look for a man who is who he claims
to be. Fakes can only pretend for so long.
8. The Hypocrite
He goes back and forth between his beliefs, standards, and regulations of life.
Most of the time this man will change things to better suit his personal life.
Don’t expect yourself to have a thriving relationship with someone who is
constantly hypocritical in their words and actions.
9. The Flirt
This man loves to flirtatiously chat with strangers, waiters, and even your
friends. The man you should seek is one who flirts with you and only you, no
matter the circumstance. That last thing you want is to be married to
someone who will deliberately flirt with people in front or you, let alone behind
your back.
10. The Jerk
Simple. Don’t marry a jerk. You deserve more than that this guy can offer you.
Look for someone who is kind, generous, selfless, and chivalrous. That last
thing you want is to be embarrassed about bringing your man in public, all
due to his attitude. Not to mention, verbal abuse is a widely spread problem
that I don’t believe any woman should have to encounter.