WITHOUT TRUST LOVE IS POINTLESS!!

One of the main problems of most relationship is lack of trust!
When an a partner breaks the trust, its very difficult to believe them again.
Once that sets in the relationship gradually go upside down.
Trust is what makes a relationship meaningful without trust, love is pointless.
Its just like building a castle in the air!
In order to build the foundation of trust in your relationship, try to be honest!
Though atimes its difficult but try to remain honest, try not to lie.
Keep your promises dont be an erring partner. Make sure you always show that
you care, be responsible.
If you are the type that dresses indecent, drinks, flirt and so on. Dont except your
partner to trust you..
Am a year older today .. cheers

Ladies need to know this

If you have someone who understands
you, who is patient with you, who loves
you genuinely, who cares about you,
who respects you, who is proud of you,
who doesn't take a day without calling
or texting you, who never fails to fix time for you, who fears to lose you.
Please love that person. Don't take his
or her care & love for granted because
such people are very rare to find these
days. Don't let such a person slip out of
your hands over minor disagreements. If you are the one in wrong admit and
ask for FORGIVENESS. Handle that
person with delicacy. Be there for him
or her. Do whatever it takes for both of
you to last forever. Be open to that
person. Don't be so nagging to such a person. Be trustworthy, faithful and
appreciative..

» Ladies : 14 Must-Have Essentials For Your Handbags «

A handbag, also purse or pouch in American English, is a handled medium-to-
large bag that is often fashionably designed, typically used by women, to hold
personal items such as wallet/coins, keys, a mobile phone, books, a pen and
paper, cosmetics and jewelry, a hairbrush, contraceptives, or pepper spray.
(Handbag definition culled from wikipedia)
14 Must-Have Essentials For Your HandBag
1. LIP STICK OR LIP BALM: Dry lips can make you uncomfortable especially
during the harmattan. To avoid licking your lips, make sure your lip balm is
intact in your handbag. A lipstick will also come in handy if you want to
quickly change your look to appear fancier or touch up the already fading
lipstick.
2. COMPACT MIRROR: Receiving weird looks from people? Get out your
compact mirror and check! Left-over food may be hanging from your teeth or
your hair may have taken an awkward shape.
3. A SMALL PACK OF TISSUES OR A HANDKERCHEF: Spilled something on
your hands? Need to wipe the bus chair before sitting down? Or just developed
a sneeze from nowhere? No sweat! Just get out your pack out tissues and be
your own hero.
4. HAND LOTION: When you remember that ashy hands or legs are not
attractive, you’ll understand that carrying lotion or a moisturizer along with
you in your handbag is super important.
5. HAIR ESSENTIALS: A bad hair day can go even worse if they’re no bobby
pins or hair ties to save the day. What about packing your hair to keep it out
of your face because the sun is just too hot for the “let-your-hair-down” look
you left home with? Having these hair accessories in your handbag will be a
good idea then. If you sport a low-cut, you can always skip this and go for a
mini comb or brush instead.

» 7 Reasons Why We Should Be Giving More Hugs «

Admit it: Nothing gives you comfort quite like a warm hug.
Whether you're wrapped up in the arms of your partner or greeting a friend
hello, hugs have a way of making us feel warm and fuzzy inside. But aside
from making us feel protected and loved, this touching gesture can also do
wonders for our well-being. So whether it's a simple squeeze, a big bear hug
or some cute cuddling -- there are plenty of reasons why we should embrace
the act of, well, embracing someone. Below, find seven reasons why we should
be giving more hugs.
They make us feel good.
The simple act of a hug isn't just felt on our arms. When we embrace
someone, oxytocin (also known as "the cuddle hormone" is released,
making us feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The chemical has also been linked
to social bonding. "Oxytocin is a neuropeptide, which basically promotes
feelings of devotion, trust and bonding," DePauw University psychologist Matt
Hertenstein told NPR. "It really lays the biological foundation and structure for
connecting to other people."
More hugs = lower blood pressure.
The hormones that are released in the body after a hug aren't just good for
happy feelings -- they can also help your physical health. When someone
touches you, the sensation on your skin activates pressure receptors called
Pacinian corpuscles, which then send signals to the vagus nerve, an area of
the brain that is responsible for (among many things) lowering blood pressure,
NPR reported.
They may alleviate our fears.
In a study on fears and self-esteem, research published in the journal
Psychological Science revealed that hugs and touch significantly reduce worry
of mortality. The studies found that hugging -- even if it was just an inatimate
object like a teddy bear -- helps soothe individuals' existential fears. "Even
fleeting and seemingly trivial instances of interpersonal touch may help people
to deal more effectively with existential concern," lead researcher Sander Koole
wrote in the study. "Interpersonal touch is such a powerful mechanism that
even objects that simulate touch by another person may help to instill in
people a sense of existential significance."
Hugging can be good for our hearts.
Embracing someone may warm your heart, but according to one study a hug
can be good medicine for it too: In an experiment at the University of North
Carolina, Chapel Hill , participants who didn't have any contact with their
partners developed a quickened heart rate of 10 beats per minute compared to
the five beats per minute among those who got to hug their partners during
the experiment.
Adults can benefit from hugging the most.
According to researchers at Ohio State University, hugging and physical touch
becomes increasingly important with age. "The older you are, the more fragile
you are physically, so contact becomes increasingly important for good
health," University psychologist Janice Kiecolt-Glaser told USA TODAY. Studies
have shown that loneliness, particularly with age, can also increase stress and
have averse health effects. By hugging someone, we instantly feel closer to
that person and decrease feelings of loneliness.
Hugs are a natural stress reliever.
Feeling strung out? Go give someone a squeeze. When we embrace, we
immediately reduce the amount of the stress hormone cortisol produced in our
bodies. Hugs also make our bodies release tension and send calming
messages to the brain.
Well-hugged babies are less stressed as adults.
Want to do something for future generations? Hug them when they're still
little. An Emory University study in rats found a link between touch and
relieving stress, particularly in the early stages of life. The research concluded
that the same can be said of humans, citing that babies' development --
including how they cope with stress as adults -- depends on a combination of
nature and nurture.

» Ten Things You Should Hide From Your Spouse

10. Facebook password
A meager reason like the password of your
social networking account can create problems
big enough to make you both drift your ways
apart. It is advisable not to share you
Facebook, Orkut, Skype or Twitter with your
partner. Preserving your password from them
will deny them complete access to your to your
privacy anytime. You never know they may
misinterpret things. Rather the better idea is if
you both sit together sometime with your
account logged in before you and you
discussing about your online activity in your
own words. A little hiding when a lot has been
already revealed is not a problem at all
especially when it can save a lot of
misunderstandings.
9. Your daily frustration
Tired after day’s work? Argument with mom or
fight with a friend or had a hard time your boss
in the office, need not come out with everything
in front of your partner. They may be your best
friend and you end up feeling great after
discussing your problems with them and even
though they are ok with it but the truth is they
are human like you and you might be troubling
them with such petty issues of yours. You can’t
run away from the fact that they don’t have
solution for each of your problem. So it’s not at
all a good thing to remove your sack of
problem from your head and place it on their
shoulder. Avoid troubling them with all your
daily frustrations; make an attempt to keep
some of the tensions to yourself. Talking about
problems more often can create negative
impact on your relationship.
8. Money can be a trouble honey
With both the partners working the probability
is quite high that you both may have an
unequal salary. If you are the one contributing
more to the family income, don’t highlight this
all the time. Do not talk about the incentives or
increments every time you receive them. This
will not only drag your partner under an
inferiority complex but chances are that they
may end up pushing all financial
responsibilities of the family at your side. Or the
other big mistake people commit is disclosing
about debts in front of their partner. They may
go crazy thinking that you people have gone
bankrupt putting unnecessary burden on your
sweetheart. You might tell them about your
debt when you have cleared them all. Till then
it’s better to hide it from them.
7. Your friend knows it all?
This one’s a big no- no. You are in the habit of
sharing the minutest details of anything and
everything with that childhood best friend of
yours but look around, your partner may not
like it. They may feel your private life to be
exposed and can feel that you treat them as
less important than that friend of yours. So the
best thing is to keep the secrets shared
between friends a secret. You don’t want your
partner to move out embarrassed as soon as
that friend of your steps in, right?
6. Hating their loved ones
So do you find their mom troublesome? Or his
dad or siblings or friends irritating..? But
shhhh…. Keep your mouth sealed. Never ever
blurt this out in front of your partner even if your
dislike is towards their… dog. How can they
ever like that you don’t find fault with
something/ someone they love so dearly.
Moreover it will create an impact on them that
you don’t approve of their judgments.
5. Aren’t bygones, bygones yet?
Past is the thing which can never be changed
but can always create a problem. Are you still
nursing feelings for your ex? It’s one thing that
you have told them everything about your past
relationship but never ever tell them that you
still feel for your ex. It will be very hard for them
to tolerate this. Don’t discuss that kiss which
went longer than you thought or things you did
for your ex. Never say it in front of your partner
if any of their actions resemble your ex or don’t
talk about anything which you liked about your
ex. Bury all the things about your permanently,
very deep under the ground so that your partner
doesn’t come face to face with them ever.
4. Keep your secret a secret
Not all of us have a past free from scratches.
There may be things you don’t like in your past.
Never ever disclose any such thing, any activity
or about any past experience, to them which
you yourself are guilty about. For if they too
mistook it you will have no way out to defend
yourself and you will be faulty in their eyes
forever. If you will make any attempt to defend
yourself, it will further deteriorate you in their
eyes as they might think you to be two-faced
or your story as an attempt to gain their
sympathy.
3. The huge expectations
This one comes naturally even before you
entered into any relationship. Since a long time
you must have been dreaming about getting
married, having that big house with a king-size
bedroom or starting a family, but keep in mind
you have to keep these hopes and aspiration
under the wrap. People often tend to give vent
to their aspirations very early in their
relationship which can usually scare them off.
Having too many expectations is always wrong
but revealing them all to your partner is very
dangerous. They may feel held back under that
mountain of your expectations. You want to
enjoy your life with them but does it have to be
at the cost of any burden on them?
2. Faults in you
It’s better to hide your faults from. Stop
nagging about your increased weight or hair
fall in front of them. Make a note first of all they
are with you because they are ok with the
things you are talking about, and that’s why
they are with you. May be they haven’t found
anything wrong with you and you are only
drawing their attention towards it. It may be an
attempt from your side to reassure yourself that
they love and appreciate you no matter what,
but you might be giving them a reason to look
down upon you.
1. Secret admirations
Now you must be smart enough to point this
one and must have been waiting for such a
point to come up. It’s always advised to keep
your secret crush a secret from your partner. If
you can’t resist yourself to catch a glimpse of
that girl/ boy in your college or enjoy the
company of that colleague in your office or love
to talk to one of his/ her friends, need not tell
about this to them. It will make them feel
jealous. No matter how good you both
understand each other it will make them feel
insecure at some point of time. You never know
that this might sow a seed of suspicion in their
mind that you are on the track of cheating upon
them. Will you like if your partner is spying on
you?

» Not Feeling The Need To Chase Any Girl: Is This Normal ?

Okay i dont know if im the only guy like this but i know i dont have any desire
to chase women. No im not gay, i love girls but i never chase them. I like to
think that maybe im proud but the idea of now begging one girl for a
relationship makes me freaking angry like wtf do u think u are....lol. Another
thing is i have realised that if u dare share ur awesome experiences with girls
on social networks everyone will attack u so im not going to say much all i
can say is yes a few girls have asked for my phone number in the past but i
still dont go into relationships with them. Somehow i friendzone them and
after a while i just cut them off for no reason. What do u think is the problem?
Am i scared of relationships or is it that im so cool and dont have time to be
"begging" one female for a relationship And i also noticed that a lot of girls
"beef" me, like people i dont even know. because i dont hold "small talks" with
them i notice they carry their face when they see me, so ladies and gentlemen
What is the meaning of all this Explain to me the concept of my
experiences and why its so ?

» The 10 Kinds Of Men A Woman Should Not Marry «

1. The Late Night Texter
You know, the guy who only texts you after midnight. He’s the guy who only
contacts you when he wants something, or someone to talk to. You can go
weeks without hearing from this person, only to rarely get a text full of smiley
faces and a message that reads, “Hey! How are you?” They aren’t consistent.
Don’t fall into the trap.
2. The Slacker
He’s the guy who has no dreams, vision, or passion to get up and do
anything. Don’t let his smooth words trick you into a relationship that will be
full of dull moments and half-hearted plans.
3. The Liar
Don’t trust a man who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore his
inconsistencies, he could eventually do something detrimental to your
relationship.
4. The Flake
This is the guy who calls of dates, constantly changes plans, and never shows
up when he promises. If you think this will change once you’re married, you’re
wrong. A flakey man will never put his woman first.
5. The Cheater
I’m all for grace and second chances, but the last thing you want is to find
yourself in a marriage with someone you can’t even trust. I’m a huge believe
that everyone can change, but please don’t get caught up in the lie that
cheating is just normal part of life. You deserve better.
6. The Partier
Stay away from him. Although he may seem as a fun and outgoing, I
guarantee you will be better off with someone who stays away from gatherings
full of bad mistakes and regretful decisions. The lifestyle of a partier never fits
well with the maturity needed in marriage.
7. The Fake
He’s the guy who claims to be one thing, but in person never steps up to the
plate. Not only is this unfair to your relationship, but you need to understand
this isn’t going to stop anytime soon. Look for a man who is who he claims
to be. Fakes can only pretend for so long.
8. The Hypocrite
He goes back and forth between his beliefs, standards, and regulations of life.
Most of the time this man will change things to better suit his personal life.
Don’t expect yourself to have a thriving relationship with someone who is
constantly hypocritical in their words and actions.
9. The Flirt
This man loves to flirtatiously chat with strangers, waiters, and even your
friends. The man you should seek is one who flirts with you and only you, no
matter the circumstance. That last thing you want is to be married to
someone who will deliberately flirt with people in front or you, let alone behind
your back.
10. The Jerk
Simple. Don’t marry a jerk. You deserve more than that this guy can offer you.
Look for someone who is kind, generous, selfless, and chivalrous. That last
thing you want is to be embarrassed about bringing your man in public, all
due to his attitude. Not to mention, verbal abuse is a widely spread problem
that I don’t believe any woman should have to encounter.

GUIDE TO BUILDING A HAPPY AND LONG LASTING MARRIAGE

The rate at which marriages collapse these days is very alarming and pathetic.
My experience in handling several divorce cases in the court has made me wonder
on what will become of our marriages and families in the near future, if no drastic
step is taken to curb this social melee.
In one of my articles in a Local Newspaper, i blindly, if not foolishly suggested
that the Matrimonial Causes Rules and the Marriage Act be amended to include a
provision that no petition for divorce should be entertained unless the petitioner
proves to the satisfaction of the court that the marriage sought to be dissolved is
not less than 3o years old. As outrageous as this suggestion may be, at least, it
will curb the rate at which various marriages are dissolved, thus, giving some
form of "home security" to the children of the marriage. We should not forget in a
hurry that broken marriages always have very bad/negative psychological effects
on the children of the marriage.
In my own little, if not insignificant or negligible contribution towards curbing the
high rate of divorce in Nigeria, I feel this little piece may be useful to some people,
whether married, about to marry, courting, dating, in a relationship or friendship,
provided you will get married one day.
I would like to start by quoting Mr. Robert Quillen in one of his numerous books
on marriage. He said "A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers. Where the
couple are not forgivers, the chances of success of the marriage will be very
slim".
As I have hinted earlier in this write up, in this age, marriage is no longer as
wonderful as it used to be or should be. Divorce is now becoming a trend and no
one wants to endure with the man/woman of their youth. At the slightest
appearance of difficulty and misunderstanding, they want to give up. People are
now quick to forget the vow they made to their partner on their wedding day.
I try sometimes not to make my writings sound religious or spiritual, and i do
hope I will try well enough in this write up. Well enough, talking about marriage, i
believe no matter your religious inclination, everyone wants to have a wonderful
and great marriage and no religion preaches intolerance in marriage. The most
common concept all religions of the world preaches in marriage is submission,
and the lack of submission is one of the major problems a lot of marriages face in
this times. Be not confused when i say submission, the context in which
submission is used here is not in relation to women alone, a man also needs to
submit to his wife and i do not mean becoming complacent and accepting folly
from your wife. We shall consider what makes a marriage great using the
acronym, "GREAT", meaning the following:
G---Giving
R---Relating
E---Edifying
A---Allowing
T---Touching
Giving:
You don't stop giving after you have married that partner of your dream, even if
the partner is not as exact you have dreamt. Often times what we want is not
what we need. A lot of marriages go through very rough times not because the
man is no longer able to provide for his family, but because most men quit giving
to their wives. Most times its not because the man is doing this on purpose, but
because a lot of men are so busy making money to provide for their family that
they forget give time, gifts, love, heart, thought, trust, and self to their wife.
In a marriage where there is continual giving, is one where there is selflessness.
When you think less of yourself and you think more of your partner before you
think of yourself, your continual desire will be to give to your partner. A woman,
no matter how bad you may think she is, will always appreciate the time and
attention you give to her more than the expensive gifts you buy for her. Though
you should be buying her the gifts sometimes, but you must know that your time
and attention is the best gift you can give to your woman. When your attitude of
giving continues after getting married, it becomes easy to give to others.
Relating:
Relating means, "one person connecting with another in thought and meaning",
and by relating here, we also mean communicating. Show me a bad marriage and
i will show you a marriage with poor relation and devoid of communication. The
sole purpose of marriage is to have someone to relate with, a best friend to share
your desires, your emotions and fears, etc. Most men do go "macho" about
communicating their fears to their partners, they keep these feelings inside of
them and it manifests in such attitude as anger.
A proper and effective relationship or communication can only happen when you
have studied your partner well enough to know what works for him or her. Some
like to keep to themselves when they are down, but that doesn't necessarily mean
they want to be left alone. The attention you pay to your partner when he or she
is down and is feeling alone will manifest in a stronger love when he/she start
feeling better.
Edifying:
To edify means to build up. The opposite of edifying is to break down. When you
are not edifying, then you are breaking down. Yes, there is a middle ground on the
matter of edifying. See your marriage as a newly built house or a well graded and
tarred road. After a while, it starts to wear out from constant use and when you
don't build it up, it collapses all together and becomes completely unusable. Same
thing applies to our lives, when we go through life, the very many situations we
face wear us out and break us down and it is the constant encouragement and
building up we receive from our loved ones especially our partners that helps us
to regain strength and confidence. The worst thing that can happen to a marriage
is when both spouse run each other with nasty words at the slightest appearance
of misunderstanding.
Also, a marriage where the man and wife don't relate with each other effectively,
will lack edification. You can not do proper edifying without communicating with
your mouth, and other physical gestures. Yes, you love your wife, but acting out
your love is not enough, acting out your appreciation is not enough, voice it. After
all, when you receive a pay rise in the office, you don't just say thank you by
giving your boss a very warm look every morning, but by voicing out your
appreciation. Learn to talk the talk, if you really feel it you should voice it.
Allowing:
A lot of men place so much unreasonable restrictions on their partners. Often
times, these restrictions are triggered more by insecurity on the part of the
husband than true guidance. This insecurity crops up because the man feels the
woman is becoming as relevant as he is in career or that the woman is climbing
faster in her career or perhaps making more money than he is making. Truth is, if
you are truly adding value to your partner, whatever good comes to her comes to
you as well because she would always know and never forget to attribute her
growth to you as her husband. But when you constantly go into competition with
your wife, then you will start feeling threatened when she's growing and she
knowing that you are not being supportive will act out in her defiance to you at
the slightest entrance of power and position in her hands. But the truth must be
told here. Some women are so bad that when they are earning more than their
husbands, they would want to be the ones at the commanding position and
expect their husbands to be the followers. If a woman is placed in better position
than their husbands, they should still be submissive to their husbands and accord
them their due respect in the house. Husbands should also learn to support their
wives. She is yours and yours alone, no matter what a woman owns or how much
money she makes, she remains your wife and that includes all that she owns. As
a good and understanding husband, you should give your wife allowance to grow
and encourage her as well. You should do this with the mind that whatever comes
out of her doing well comes to you also as long as she bears your name.
Touching:
A lot of men are guilty of this crime. Well, i called it a crime because it is
important and so many don't do it. Men should never forget that women like to
be touched. Please, in this context, i don't necessarily mean the kind of touching
that leads to the bedroom, although it may be sometimes. But the kind of
touching referred to herein is the touching that brings reassurance of love; that
warm hug that says, "i miss you", holding hands when you walk on the road,
placing your hands around her waist while you take a walk together. Let me ask
you this, "How many times did you see your father communicate love to your
mother through loving gestures"? More than half of you readers will answer "No"
and that is the very reason why you find it difficult expressing your love in that
manner as well. Learn to express your love through touch, even that will
communicate something healthy to your children. When the children knows that
mum and dad love each other, they would feel secured, happy and grow into
confident, loving and lovable individuals.
Are you already married, about to get married, or not close to getting married?
Whichever category you fall into provided you will get married one day, you should
start to develop this "GREAT" attitude. I assure you, you will see how well your
marriage turns out great. Hope this was a great reading for you. Remember to
share with your friends and loved ones on facebook. Start practicing what you
have just read and you will be glad you deed. I love you all.
Till we meet again, I remain yours sincerely.

NEVER LOOSE A GIRL WITH THESE QUALITIES!!!

**When a girl WALKS for miles to see u....
**When a girl SAYS SORRY even though she didn't
do anything,..
**When a girl CRIES because she still loves/
misses u....
**When a girl still TRIES TO GET you-
BACK...after disagreement/ break-up
**When a girl no matter how much U HURT
HER STILL LOVES U...
**when a girl STOPS her argument
with her guy to SAVE her relationship...
**When a girl continuously
MAKES U FEEL SPECIAL and
TRIES TO MAKE U HAPPY...
**When a girl is upset but DOES NOT tell u
as she thinks she is ANNOYING U.....
**When a girl wants to
LEAVE you because of your RUDE BEHAVIOUR but she is not able to do... DO
NOT LET HER GO, because U MAY NEVER FIND
SOMEONE Like THAT EVER AGAIN.
SHE MAY BE VERY SPECIAL ΑND GOD'S GIFT FOR U.

25 WAYS TO TEST WHETHER YOU TRULY LOVE THAT GUY OR LADY.

Although reading this piece may be painstaking, but if you are able to endure the
pain and read it to the end, you will be glad you did. So shall we go? Here are the
tests:
Attraction test: Is he/she attracted to the content or container, i.e, is it about
your person or your body.
Purpose test: Will the relationship be temporal or forever, what exactly is the
basis of your love.
Vision test: Does your vision unite you or divide you, do you compliment him and
does he add values to you.
Activity test: Are you planning for tomorrow or all you care about is the
excitement of today. Do you see a future together, are you guarding it or
destroying it
Caring test: What does he care about, your life or body, your present or future? Is
the care genuine or to get through in between your legs (for the girls especially).
Longevity test: is it for now or forever.
Starting test: How did it all started, was is based on friendship, infatuation or
lust.
Divine relationship test: Are you together in Christ or together in club.
Interest test: Is he warm, tender and gentle or harsh rude and arrogant.
Maturity test: How wise are both of you, can your wisdom build a home and will
your understanding establish it.
Effect test: Are you a better person or worse off.
Excitement test: Are you happy in the relationship or are you enduring the
relationship.
Marriage test: can you spend the rest of your life with him/her. Can you marry
him/her?
Self-emotions test: can both of you control your feelings and urge to feel each
other's bodies (you can guess what I mean by that).
Peace test: Is there peace of mind or you are always troubled while in the
relationship
Other relationship: What is the view of your family and friends? Do they know
about the relationship, are they in support of it.
Trust test: can you open up to him/her saying nothing but the truth at every point
in time.
Distance test: can you love him/her in his/her absence
Time test: Is the love growing strong or waxing cold, can it survive the test of
time.
Pluralistic test: Do you see each other as you and me or we and us
Character test: Can you cope with his/her flaws and can you live with his/her
weaknesses
Foundation test: can you present him to the world as your husband or wife.
Association test: Who are the people surrounding your relationship
Commitment test: Do you spend quality time with each other, are you there when
things are not going fine for him/her, or do you abandon him/her in such
situations.
Medical test: Is your genotype compatible with his/hers. Is he/she medically fit
and ok for you?
But let me ask this question, how many times have you prayed for him/her. How
concerned are you about his/her career, and in what way have you contributed to
his/her career progress.
Use all these tests and weigh your relationship today. Make amends where
necessary. Where you went wrong, be humble enough to ask for forgiveness, and
stop claiming right all the time. Commit your relationship into the hands of God.
Be sincere and dedicated to it. I assure you, you will surely have a blissful and
long lasting relationship, in Jesus name, Amen.

Making a girl believe you are in love with her just to have sex , you think that's cool?

Imagine if some dude was doing that to your sister... Still think its cool?
That's what a lot of you guys these days don't understand...
You're being selfish and only thinking about yourself...
Lust is taking over you...
Be a man and respect her, if you cant do that then you don't deserve her....

13 THINGS LADIES SHOULD BEAR IN MIND WHEN GOING INTO A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIAGE

1. Guys love to marry an independent and Matured lady. So, instead of sitting
there and waiting to be bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a career that would
take you out of the house wife category.
2. Never let the sweet talks of guys deceive you. Most times guys use it to lure
girls just to go between your legs and thereafter become Nigeria’s Usain Bolt.
3. Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to
approach you. No matter how beautiful and elegant you may be, the bitter truth is
that the older you get by the day, the less guy toasters you will have. # old cargo.
4. Playing 'too' hard to get is the worst thing you should ever think of let alone
doing. Although it is not advisable to fall cheap for guys, but remember, nothing
lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies
looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE.
5. Never extort money or material things from a guy you don't love. Guys always
have ways of paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total 'PAID'
STRANGERS. BE CAREFUL. If you are too demanding also, you may piss the guy
off.
6. Never be deceived that you can trap a guy through sex or getting pregnant for
him. Far far far, foul. A man will always return to his woman who even sex-
starves him for years provided he loves and trust her. You can never win a man
over with your body or pregnancy.
7. If all you take to a relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY or other
material things from the guy, please don't complain if all he demands from you is
your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer other than sex, and I bet
you, he will exploit it to the fullest and later take you to the cleaners. # using and
dumping things.
8. Don't be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl. They will
say that same thing to an 80-year old woman they want to get intimate with.
9. A guy taking you to the SILVER-BIRD, FAST FOOD, MALL AND EVENTS AT
CONFERENCE CENTER/NATIONAL THEATRE is no sign that he loves you. If he
doesn't care to ask and PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER, then you are just his
'BED MATE' and nothing else.
10. If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house
and do his laundry, then just know you are his "executive house help".
11. If he avoids meeting your family and close friends, then it is an obvious sign
he is just playing games with you.
12. If the only places he doesn't frown when you enter are his bedroom and
kitchen then know you aren't welcome.
13. Let me just drop this least but important hint, always be interested and care
about your guy’s future. This will help to re-assure him that you are there to stay
and not just to hit and run. Encourage him to save for the future. Make out time
to discuss his financial standing with him, how much he earns, how much he
saves and how much he invests. At the beginning, he may be skeptical to discuss
his financial standing with you to avoid being exploited by you. But if he sees the
sincerity and honesty in you, I bet you, he will tell you everything. Never be too
demanding because it sends a message to him that all you are interested in is
what you can get from him. Believe me, when he developes this mindset about
you, I assure you, you will come out the worst of it.

10 THINGS THAT MAKE A MAN ATTRACTIVE

1. Smile
A great smile is one of the greatest attractions of a man. It breaks a woman's
resistance and allows her to relax around you without any verbal language.
2. Masculinity
It's in the way you move and talk that keeps a woman's eyes on you and creates
her instinctive feelings of attraction.
3. Confidence
Confidence makes a man. Show her your male confidence and that you're self-
assured, never backing down from any situation. Make her feel protected.
4. Eye contact
A man who knows how to have eye contact is a man who knows how to
communicate. It's the best way to show that you're listening to what a woman is
saying. It also makes a woman feel special and cared for.
5. Aromatic sense
If a man looks good and smells even better, women are bound to swarm around
him.
6. Having a sense of style
It's not the clothes that make a man sexy, but how he carries his apparel with
confidence and ease that does. Clothes don't impress women; it's the man that
makes those clothes look good on him that does.
7. Communication skills
Conversational skills are necessary for any man to succeed with women. He must
know when and how to start up a conversation and carry it on intelligently.
8. Being able to cook
Most men have no problem when it comes to outdoor grilling, but when they can
get down in the kitchen, that's impressive to most women.
9. Having sensitivity
Sensitivity means having a sense of empathy, confidentiality and trust rolled into
one. When a woman confides something or expresses her feelings, she just needs
an ear to listen so she can let off steam. However, too much sensitivity can be
mistaken for femininity.
10. Having a sense of humor
A man with a good sense of humor automatically is considered sexy by women.
Women think that if he can make them laugh in public, chances are he can also
make them giggle in bed.

Are you planning to get married or go into a relationship that will lead to marriage?

Well, we all know that not all relationships, no matter how sweet
and romantic it may be end up in marriage. Many of them do crash on the way.
But lets go on. If you are planning to get married or go into a relationship that
will subsequently lead to marriage, it may well pay you good to squeeze out
time out of your busy schedule to read and ponder over this question; Did I
Marry Or Am I Dating The Right Person?
Those who are still single may learn something from here....Those who are
already married may take it as a guideline to improve their marriage....DID I
MARRY OR AM I DATING THE RIGHT PERSON?
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your
partner or spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, dreamt of
being in the arms of each other, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love
with your partner or spouse wasn't hard. Infact, it is a completely natural and
spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's
called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the
imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there;
doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a
few years into the relationship/marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a
bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens),
and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about
your relationship or marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent
stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking , "Did I marry or am i
dating the right person?" And as you and your partner/spouse reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when relationships/marriages breakdown. People blame
their partner/spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their relationship/
marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most
obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive
TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage or
relationship, whichever you may be in. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you
couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd
feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen
carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN A MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING
THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just
happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in
and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes
WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make
no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can
do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage/relationship.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also
laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you
physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your
marriage/relationship stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and
apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love. Please not
'make love' in the context we understand today, i.e, having sex. That is not
what i meant here please.
Love in marriage/relationship is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling .
Watch out for the part two of this write up next week. Till then, I remain yours
truly.

How to Know When He is Done With the Relationship.

First of all, we must agree that not all relationships end up in 'I do'. Many
actually end in 'I don't'. If a man no longer wants to 'do' with you, you will do
well, my beloved sister, to learn to let him go. Not that you can stop him anyway,
but it will be easier on you if you hold a meeting with your heart and head and all
of you resolve not to create a scene over his quitting the relationship. Here are
the ways to know that you are no longer holding the title of 'fiance' or 'girlfriend'
to your man;
1. He will stop asking for elaborate explanations about your movements. If he
used to check on you three times between the time you left the office and the
time you got home, and all he asks these days is, 'how was your day?', and he
nicely changes the subject when you attempt to give him the full gist, let the
romance light in your head move from green to amber. If you tell him you have a
dinner to attend after work and all he says is okay without asking who is hosting
the dinner, the venue and what you are wearing, you are surely losing grip of him.
As far as he is concerned, you can go and jump into the sea from the third
mainland bridge.
2. Another red sign that he is done with you is if he stops giving you elaborate
explanations about his life, his job, career, finances and his movements.For
instance, you see him with a girl, and all he says to you is just 'hello' or 'how are
you' and then tells you that he will see you or call you on phone later. Note; he
did not introduce the girl or tell the girl who you are, my dear, let it sink deep into
your head that you are no longer as important and precious as you used to be to
him.
3. If you have already met some of his family members, put your thinking cap on
if you sense unease among his family members whenever you visit them. Watch
out for the smiles that do not reach their eyes, the pitying looks and the almost
audible sign of relief when you tell them you are leaving. Poor folks! They like you,
but your man has introduced another girl to them and told them that he was
done with you.
4. When a man begins to make himself unavailable and unapproachable, he is
telling the woman who thinks she is still in his life that the deal is off. If you were
spending the weekends together and now there is always something keeping him
busy every weekend, don't ignore the alarm ringing behind your left ear. You want
to go to his house and see things for yourself? Great idea, you will most likely
find what you are looking for, your replacement.
5. If your man who once upon a time, could not keep his hands and eyes off you
behind every closed door - office, car, bedroom, kitchen, bathroom doors, suddenly
looks at you in lingerie, adjusts his glasses and returns to his laptop, ipad or
television, you are on your way to the dump site, most likely. I am assuming both
of you had a great sex life, though not advocated here of course. Now, he sees
you in the shower and he is still walking normal without adjusting his zipper or
joining you in the bathtub, aaahhhh? There is surely a cause for alarm, believe
me.
6. He used to call you 10 times a day, and now it has dwindled to one call a day
or fizzled out entirely, and when you call, he rarely picks or tells you he is busy,
my beloved sister, you are a 'dumpee' waiting for certification. That man has
moved on and I suggest you move on with your life too, yes.
Please be on the lookout, and adjust yourself so that you won't join the
bandwagon of most girls who say, 'he used me and dumped me'.
Till next time.

To the ladies aspiring to marry the right man....

First and foremost u have to have the fear of God in you,U have to be
humble,courteous,respectful and moderate in ur expectations of the right
man..charity they say begin at home..when u re properly packaged from home,ur
prospective husband will have no choice than to complement ur efforts unless he
is naturally wicked and inconsiderate....Never u believe dat ur prospective
husband is a money spinning machine and as such is supposed to meet up with
every unreasonable or ridiculous bill u tender,take ur man as ur friend and brother
and always know dat d family u re planning on belongs to both of u and should
be laid on a solid foundation....avoid friends who will set ur mind up dt ur
prospective husband is not financially Ok,such friends derive joy in destroying
relationships,never compare the progress of ur prospective husband with your
friends own,there is a time for everything in life,a time to struggle and a time to
reap ur struggle....distance urself from friends who will make u believe dt ur
prospective husband is beneath ur level cos experience has shown dt if u lift urself
people will bring u down but if u bring urself down they will lift u so don't overate
urself cos ur friends told u dat biko......finally don't have d mindset dat ur
prospective husband is an opponent and as such should be made to suffer well
well before u accept his proposal....in doing dat the guy man fit do Ben Johnson
ooo and run into d hands of a more compromising babe and ur portion will be
crying and complaining dat the guy left u and married someone else not knowing
that na ur gragra pursue am away.....By the faithfulness of d grace,mercy,ble
ssings and favour i ve enjoyed from God both in life and in marriage i declare dat
all marriageable sisters reading dis thing now will find their real husbands without
further delay

TO THE SINGLE LADIES

No man ever wants a 'crazy' wife! It is only guys who
want a 'crazy' girlfriend, so don't be deceived.
A guy who wants you to party hard every weekend,
expose your boobs,
wear skimpy clothes,loud make ups and get down with
11bottles of beer while he is on 15 will NEVER marry
you!
A guy who wants sex everywhere with you when he is
not yet married to you will see you as a whore when the
time for marriage eventually comes...
Have you ever wondered why most of these crazy guys
go for the 'timid' and 'local' looking girls when it comes
to marriage but dump the sexy,sassy and gorgeous
looking ones??? A man wants more than
beauty for marriage!
Those boobs you are flaunting
everywhere will eventually sag
someday so invest in yourself!
A man really wants a place he can call home, he wants a
woman who is modest and can take care of his parents,
one with whom the
children can confide in, the one he can take major
decisions with and tell all his fears. He wants a
wife,mother and sister all in one...
I'm not saying that looking good is bad.
Infact looking good is good
business, but you have got to look beyond that and pay
more attention to things that keep a home. If you truly
want to attract a decent man, please be decent yourself
and do not let any man use you to pass
time!...
May GOD grant you the wisdom to be the woman a
man truly needs!

MEN, BEWARE: 10 Signs She Will Make Bad Wife

If you're thinking of asking your girlfriend to become your wife, deciding if
you're ready to make the commitment to marriage is only half the battle.
You have to be absolutely sure that the woman in your life is someone you'll be
happy spending time with day in and day out. Here are some of the most obvious
signs that your girlfriend is not marriage material.
1. She cuts you off from loved ones;
A girlfriend who always becomes sick when it's time to spend quality time with
your family and even forbids you from hanging out with your friends will only act
worse after you say your vows.
2. She bails on you when times get tough
Life isn't always a bowl of cherries, but that doesn't mean that the woman in
your life should just disappear when the times get tough. If your girlfriend is not
supportive of you emotionally through difficult times and only stands by you when
things are going good, she's not the one you should be walking down the aisle
with.
3. She displays psychotic behaviors
A woman who breeds chaos, misunderstanding and insanity might not be the best
person to swear your undying loyalty to. If she displays severe psychological
problems now, imagine what kind of influence her crazy and irrational behaviors
will have on your future. Marrying a woman like this will most likely ruin your life
and your perception of women forever.
4. She's too clingy
If your girlfriend can't go anywhere or do anything without you, calls you twenty
times a day and destroys any chance of you missing her because the two of you
are never apart, she's going to make a bad wife.
5. She has nothing going on for herself
You should want to marry a woman who has goals and brings something better
to your life, not one who is up to her neck in debt, has no income, displays
unpredictable behaviors and has tried numerous, short-lived career paths yet never
knows what she wants in life. This type of fickle lifestyle could derail your own life
plan as well.
6. She's controlling
If your girlfriend controls all of your conversations, constantly forces you into
agreeing with her and acts as an overbearing, emotional bully, it'll only get worse
after you say "I do."
7. She's already cheated on you
Do you honestly believe that a woman is marriage material if she has been
unfaithful to you while you were dating? Yes, a person can always change and
learn from their mistakes; however, a cheating girlfriend will more than likely
continue to be unfaithful after marriage.
8. Her libido doesn't match yours
Another sign that she'll make a bad wife is if her libido differs wildly from yours.
The way you relate to each other in the bedroom has a big influence on whether
the two of you will stay together after wedding vows are exchanged, so it's best
to work this out before you walk down the aisle.
9. She's extremely jealous
Although a little bit of jealousy is essential for a healthy relationship, extreme
jealousy arises in a relationship because of high levels of insecurity. If your
girlfriend is jealous of every girl who comes near you, refuses to accept that you
have female friends and feels threatened when you discuss your previous
relationships, putting a ring on her finger is not going to make her more secure.
10. She can't admit when she's wrong
If she always seems to have the upper hand in arguments, refuses to admit her
faults or even treat you as an equal, she's not the marrying kind. While making
one of the most important decisions of your life, keep these things in mind.
However, you should also listen to your heart.

Don't make her regret that....

Other guys want her,While you have her,
you no longer act like you want her the way you used to do.
She still wants you,
but other guys are starting to treat her better than you do.
Do you know how lucky you are?
You have a girl that other guys wish they had & if you keep acting like you don't
want her anymore, you might just end up not having her anymore.
Think about this. You don't want to talk her? Other guys wish they had her
number & those who do,probably blow up her phone.
You don't want to see her? Other guys wish they could spend the day with her
&those who can, value their time with her.
You don't want to be there for her? Other guys wish they could be close to her &
those who are, comfort her until she's happy again.
Out of all these guys, she talks to you the most, sees you the most & depends on
you to comfort her the most.
Don't make her regret that....

She knows how she feels about you, but she doubts everything else

She likes you, bro, but she just doesn't know about a lot of things. She doesn't
know if you're actually serious about her,or at least convinced that you are.
She doesn'tknow if you're just playing games with her, or at least can't tell if you
are or you aren't.
She doesn't know if you mean all the things you sayto her, or at least she can't
sense sincerety from you.
She doesn't know if you will actually keep the promises you made her, or at least
can't tell if you're being honest with her or not.
She doesn't know if you like her for her or if you just want to get in her pants, or
at least not getting the impression that it's not just a physical attraction.
She's just been down this road so many times before & been fooled over & over
again,so she doesn't know what to believe or what not to believe, even ifthe truth
is right in front of her or she's been lied to the face.
She knows how she feels about you, but she doubts everything else ..

Chelsea destroyed Arsenal, 6-0

LONDON (AFP) – Chelsea dealt a crushing blow to Arsenal’s Premier League
title hopes with a 6-0 victory on Saturday after one of the beaten team’s
players had been mistakenly sent off.
Chelsea were in no mood to allow Arsenal manager Arsene Wenger to celebrate
his 1,000th game in charge and raced into a two-goal lead inside the opening
seven minutes, courtesy of Samuel Eto’o and Andre Schurrle.
Despite the heavy defeat, the main talking point of this eagerly-anticipated
contest came in the 17th minute when Arsenal left back Kieran Gibbs was
incorrectly shown a red card by referee Andre Marriner.
The official pointed to the spot when a right-foot shot from Eden Hazard was
tipped around the post by the left hand of Arsenal midfielder Alex Oxlade-
Chamberlain.
Yet Marriner ordered Gibbs to leave the field, despite television replays showing
Oxlade-Chamberlain apparently telling the official, “Ref, it was me!”
Gibbs continued to protest his innocence as he walked off, before Hazard
slotted home the spot-kick.
Oscar added a brace of goals either side of half-time, before substitute
Mohamed Salah completed Chelsea’s most emphatic win over Arsenal with his
team’s sixth.
At half-time, fourth official Anthony Taylor confirmed to television broadcasters
that Gibbs’s red card had been a case of mistaken identity.
But regardless of the referee’s mistake, this was another shambolic defensive
performance by Wenger’s Arsenal, who had previously conceded six goals at
Manchester City and five at Liverpool this season.
- Slide-rule pass -
Arsenal have now let in 34 league goals this term, with half coming in just 270
minutes of football.
Yet it all could have been very different for the visitors had Arsenal striker
Olivier Giroud scored in the fourth minute.
Tomas Rosicky fed the Frenchman with a slide-rule pass, but Petr Cech
produced a neat save down to his left.
That started Arsenal’s problems as the ball did not go out of play and Chelsea
launched a lightning-quick counter-attack.
Schurrle exchanged passed with Hazard before threading a ball through to Eto’o
on the right-hand side of the penalty box.
The striker cut inside Oxlade-Chamberlain and expertly finished into the far
corner beyond Arsenal goalkeeper Wojciech Szczesny.
Worse was to follow for Wenger two minutes later as Schurrle doubled
Chelsea’s advantage when he received Nemanja Matic’s pass and fired a shot
through Laurent Koscielny’s legs that gave Szczesny no chance.
Chelsea then lost Eto’o to an apparent hamstring injury, with Fernando Torres
coming on, but by the time of Marriner’s blunder, the game already seemed
over.
To Chelsea’s credit, they went on to show a ruthless streak by ramming home
their dominance to put the pressure on title rivals Liverpool and City.
Oscar bagged his first goal four minutes before the break when the Brazilian
shot into the roof of the net following Torres’s cross from the right.
He completed his brace in the 66th minute with a shot from outside the box
that appeared to catch Szczesny by surprise, before Salah ran through fives
minutes later to score his first Chelsea goal.

NIS tragedy: Any hope for unemployed graduates?

As a student, I still have the fear of tomorrow after graduation if one could get a
job or die while searching for non-existing vacancy.
In fact, as many have lately observed, we are now sitting on a time-bomb
when millions are unemployed. A 2012 survey by the National Bureau of
Statistics put Nigeria’s youth unemployment figure at 54 percent. This means
one out of every two young people who should be gainfully employed is
unemployed. That’s frustrating and scary.
*Applicants at the Nigeria Immigration Service test held at the 60,000
capacity National Stadium, Abuja. Photo: Abayomi Adeshida
Imagine over 693,000 applicants all over the nation chasing 4,500 jobs in the
Nigeria immigration service , out of which 19 died at the test and hundreds
fainted from stampede and exhaustion. They came looking for jobs, in a country
that has mastered the art of hoarding jobs. They found death instead of the
jobs. Many horrible pictures and videos from the incidents across the federation
went viral. There is therefore a lot of condemnations over the exercise.
There are many questions demanding answers: How will the families of the
victims be compensated? what is the future of our unemployed youths? What is
government doing to address unemployment in the country?
Government needs to recognise the plight of unemployed graduates and not
waste time and money on issues that are not important to the development of
this country. We are not unmindful of the fact that President Goodluck Jonathan
has rolled out a number of programmes to tackle unemployment, like YouWin
and the SURE-P Scheme among others which are yet to provide the necessary
infrastructure for their tenability. There is also a Nigerian Youth Employment
Action Plan, NIYEAP, which was launched under President Yar’Adua in 2009 but
is stillborn. The efforts have been negligible compared to the scale of the
problems on the ground. Of course the Federal Government should not take all
the blame for unemployment woes. The states and local governments must also
take responsibilities on job creation.
Meanwhile, government at all levels should evolve a programme or a system
that could be called YouthFund where it can provide grant or soft loans as
capitals to youth to start up an enterprise. With such gestures the beneficiaries
would be able to fend for themselves and reduce the rate of crime and other
menace caused by idleness of the unemployed youths.
There is no big deal working with government as there are innovative schemes
which youths could benefit from and become independent and render services to
the society at large. The youths should also take advantage of acquisition skills
provided by the government to be self-employed and contribute meaningfully to
various sectors of the economy.
The unemployed graduates shouldn’t be over ambitious in the sense of wanting
to make it ‘big time’ but they could start from any small-scale business to
fend for themselves. By the way what is wrong in farming or driving a cab and
even street cleaning for legitimate income. For sure, such jobs which some may
considered odds are far better than robbery, prostitutions and criminal activities.
Meanwhile, considering the condemnations trailing the immigration recruitment
exercise which resulted in the death and injury of some of the applicants,
government should provide compensation for the families of the victims as well
as reschedule the repeat of the exercise that could be easily done online.
*Master Yushau-Shuaib is of the Mass Communication Department, Baze
University, Abuja

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¤Facts girls should understand¤

If A Boy Cries for a Girl, that doesn't mean He Is Stupid.
If A Boy can't move On to another Girl, that Doesn't Mean he Is Stubborn.
If A Boy gets Depressed For one Girl', that doesn't Mean he Is a Loser.
If A Boy always Dreams about Only 'one Girl', that doesn't Mean He's Just got
Addicted to her.
If A Boy Is Obsessed For One Girl, That doesn't Mean he can't be With any Other
Girl.
If A Boy Is Crazy For One Girl, that doesn't Mean he has Lost His Mind….But, All
that Means Is, He Loves that Girl So Much That he can't Love Any Other
Girl In the Same Way.

Signs You’re With The Man You Should Marry

1. He always brags about you. If you get a promotion at work or even just
win concert tickets he can't resist telling everyone you hang out with before
you even think to mention it. Because he's your biggest fan (arguably next
to your mom).
2. He makes sacrifices for you — and you're happy to do the same for him.
He'll move cities to live with you if you get a new job or finish grad school.
You're happy to make the next move for one of his opportunities.
3. He shares the same values as you. You know you both want kids and
expect to split the childcare equally. Or maybe you know you both want
kids and he wants to take extended paternity leave. Maybe you've also
agreed that you should each get 45 minutes to yourself to go to the gym
every day or you plan to buy a home and move to the suburbs in five years.
You know you're on the same page with things that matter most to you
because you've discussed them.
4. Even after years together he still does little chivalrous things for you.
Like open doors for you or carry you to your doorstep when your feet hurt
after wearing high heels all day and you just can't bear to walk one more
block.
5. He doesn't try to change you. He knows you're messier than him, that
you always need a pet cat, and can't cook to save your life, and all of that
is all right by him.
6. When you think about marrying him, the best part isn't the wedding, it's
the idea of spending your lives together. The wedding is fun, but you really
can't wait for the two weeks right after when you'll get uninterrupted
honeymoon time.
7. You survived a long-distance relationship. It was hard and scary, but you
love each other so much that you were able to make the necessary
sacrifices to make it through with a singular goal in mind: living in the
same place and being together when it was all over.
8. "I miss you" isn't just a sweet thing you say. It's a reality. Even if it
hasn't been that long (like, two hours) since you saw each other.
9. You don’t like having a roommate and love having your own space, but
you’d still prefer to live with him. You look forward to the end of the day,
not because you’ll be done with work but because you’ll get to see him
again.
10. He’s your go-to person whenever you have a story to share, about
work, about friends, about anything. You used to tell your parents and
friends about all these things, but now you don’t call them quite as much
as you used to. They don’t mind because they see how happy you are.
11. You feel comfortable planning things six months — or a year — in the
future. You’re not worried you’ll have to cancel plane tickets or say you
won’t be needing a plus-one after all. You feel that confident in your
relationship.
12. You can cry in front of him without feeling embarrassed. He knows
when to worry and when you’re just caught up in a scene of a movie.
13. When your friends complain about their significant others or the guys
they’ve gone out with, you get kind of quiet because you don’t have much
to contribute. You don’t want to brag, but you just don't have to deal with
any of that nonsense because your significant other is great to you.
14. He’s close with your family, and he’s made sure you’ve gotten to know
his. He’ll call your dad or your grandma without any hesitation. It just
makes sense that you’d go to his nephew’s birthday party, even if he's not
there.
15. He cares about your friends. If one of them is having a bad day, he
suggests you go spend time with her or invite her to join the two of you for
dinner. If he hasn’t heard someone’s name in a while, he asks how she’s
doing.
16. He lets you vent. Sometimes when something frustrates you, you just
need to go over it again and again. He doesn’t get annoyed at this, and he
dismisses your apologies. The only thing that bothers him about the
situation is that you’re upset and he wishes you weren’t.
17. He tells you, out of the blue, that you look hot. And it’s on the day you
didn’t dry your hair or put on makeup or even change out of your T-shirt
and sweatpants.
18. You can do things like travel together without fighting all the time.
We've all seen (or been) that tragic couple fighting over where to get lunch
at the airport so badly that one of them devolves into tears and puts her
shades on indoors and lies across three seats in the terminal. You can do
tedious things with your S.O. without all this fighting.